How to make yourself happy
Wondering when you will feel happy? Think that day is never going to come? Do you feel happy one day then sad the next? Then read on for some ideas and thoughts from us and hopefully you can use it to brighten up your life…be happy because happiness is a choice!
How to find happiness
Firstly we need to think about when we felt happy in our lives. Close your eyes for a moment and think back to a happy moment. Was it on holiday with your parents when you were a child? Was it a birthday party with friends and family? When you had a quiet moment all by yourself on a beach reading your favorite book? Or was it when you went to a club for the first time and danced all night long? Well, most of everyone’s happy memories are about doing child like things. So surely it is all about finding the inner child? When we were younger, we felt innocent, broke the rules, pushed the boundaries, were flexible, knew very little and had no shame. We were also told where to go and what to do and went with it. We were free and innocent and chose to do things that made us feel happy and joyful. We chose things with little rules or regulations. We blew up balloons only to pop them, we ran around like monsters and got messy in dirt out in the parks. We rolled down grassy hills and threw freshly cut grass at each other. We played with weird and wacky toys, played hide and seek, turned up at our neighbor’s door and asked to play with a friend.
These days we sit inside and let difficult and stressful anxieties enter our minds. If we start the day with a mind frame of a child, then we would feel a little free from our day to day anxieties and would start to have a little bit more fun. We would feel young again!
Happiness we felt as a child was a different kind of happiness. The free ‘no worries’ kind when we ran in the parks. The feeling which gave us peace and laughter. Happiness brings joy to us and the people around us. It makes us feel warm, tingly and energetic. But you keep asking yourself ‘How do I make myself happy?’ There are things you can practice like cognitive therapy techniques (where you re-wire the mind to think in a more positive way-through challenging the mind to understand your way of thinking and instead of negativity you bring positive feelings through the mind using evidence from the given situation.) Meditation techniques can also help in a similar way. Also, the Chinese philosophy ‘yin and yang’-the balancing of opposites is a good place to start your research. But on the other hand sometimes it is best to just stop looking for happiness and live your life for the now. Life is too short to stress about tomorrow and next week or next year. Planning every single event down to the details will only create more anxiety in the log run. Sometimes let someone else deal with the details, delegate! Here are a few points for you to make things more clear and to help focus your new positive outlook on yourself and life…
- First Love Yourself! F.L.Y Spoil yourself. Eat well. Sleep well. Play hard
- Enlighten the inner child. Face painting. Slumber (sleep over) parties, popcorn, jelly and ice cream. Have the lads over for a game. Watch stand up comedy
- Set yourself free. Fly like a bird F.L.Y happiness is a choice
- Help someone unconditionally. Helping brings happiness.
- Make peace with those who prevent you from sleeping
- Less is more. If you are trying too hard, STOP and delegate
- Excite your senses (aromatherapy)
- Leaving yourself one or two days a week to have fun fun fun is how to make yourself happy
Remember to take one day at a time, one step at a time. Don’t forget you can’t do everything, you can’t be perfect and juggle all day…everyday. You need little pauses in life and don’t let anyone make you feel guilty of that. Take a long deep breath and feel okay. Okay is good!
Whatever you do, just try to think like we all used to, before we put mature adult heads on our shoulders. If you let yourself free, you will eventually see that happiness is all around us. It’s how we look and play that’s important. Good luck, have fun making new happy memories.
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