If you’re becoming a mom or already are a new mom read on for guidence to help you through this challenging yet most rewarding period of your life so far. Or you might be the daddy or a friend looking for best gifts for new moms. Whatever you are searching for, we know you will feel alot better after reading on…
Letter to new mom,
Being a new mom has it’s struggles, ups and downs. It’s the most challenging time of your life and will also effect those around you. You need all the help you can get and here are some simple yet effective ideas to get you into a comfort zone where you feel content and ready to bring your little baby into this world.
- Look after yourself first, if you are good, the rest follows
- Rest as much as possible
- Go to the movies/cinema-this is something you will miss for a while
- Minimize your clutter
- Finalise your hospital bag, leave it near the door
- During the last two weeks of pregnancy make sure all electornical items are fully charged
- Delegate! Give those close around you little jobs
- Organize your weekly shopping (internet grocery shopping) to be delivered to your door
- Store ready prepared meals in the freezer for quick cooking time
- Have fun, enjoy the fuss of being a new mom!!!
Best gifts for new moms
If you are looking for gifts for new moms then here are some great ideas to help her out:
- Organize a deep clean in mom’s house before the birth
- Book her a spa weekend before birth to relax mom
- New moms gift baskets- pamper baskets for mom including lotions and massage oils
- Throw her a baby shower
- Baby shower gift baskets -includes essential products for new baby
- Diaper cake
- Surprise her with an organized family photographer
- She will need diapers and wet wipes-set up an account online to recieve bulk orders
- Add ready made meals to her freezer
- Breastfeeding moms- button down pyjamas for easy access
- Succulent plants for the house-easy to look after
- Mason jars pre-prepared for quick snack through the day
- Boppy pillow
What is ‘normal’?
You find you keep asking yourself is this normal, is that normal? Well, even though you are a new mother, you still have the right to listen to your instincts. Listen to how you feel about whatever situation you have. Trust yourself. Trust your senses and please know that there is no ‘normal’, that every baby is different and gives off different signals to their parents. Go by your initial instincts first then ask for a secind opinion if you are not sure and don’t feel you are a bad mother if you need to ask for help. We have all been there and all need some guidence in the beginning through the magical rollacoaster of being a parent for the first time. Read on for more on instincts and a new mother’s senses…
New mother’s five senses are more sensitive to observe changes more easily in baby and baby’s envorinment. These include:
- Sight- to see any changes in baby and environment to lessen any hazards or illnesses
- Hearing- to hear any changes in breathing, crying as well as environment
- Taste- for mother to taste food before giving to baby
- Smell-mother will be able to smell any changes in diapers, foods, hazardass gases and chemicals
- Touch- mother will be able to recognise if temperature of baby, envorinment or foods are too hot or cold as well as feel any changes in the body when touched
Some argue there are extra senses involved, one is a type of instinct humans have like when we feel someone has entered the room without a sound, when we look they are there. Or we feel someone looking at the back of our heads and when we turn we see their eyes looking at you looking surprised that you noticed them. We’re also aware of where our limbs are when we close our eyes. We can close our eyes and know where our glass is on the kitchen counter and pick it up within seconds after seeing it. These are all factors for a new mom. The new mom goes through many hightened senses and at the end of the day can feel exhausted by them. As her body and mind work more than normal, she is left feeling overwhelmed at times. So all you new moms out there: please trust yourself a bit more, look after yourself, pat yourself on the back now and then for all those night shifts, take as much rest as you can and welcome help:) You deserve it!!!
These simple factors allow the mother to feel she has instincts. Therefore should feel she can listen to her own feelings and when mother feels there is something wrong or not ‘normal’ with the baby, then in most cases she is right. A difference in baby’s feeding style or sleeping pattern, mother usually is much more sensitive to changes and will feel the need to act upon them and therefore feel a kind of panic when not heard or not taken seriously. These instincts may make the mother feel uncomfortable, yet are only natural for a new mother and are ‘normal’ feelings. So when mother has a concern for something which is new for her and baby then she probably just needs to be heard and taken seriously or just get a second opinion to double check with someone with more experience. this does not however mean the new mother has less knowledge or is in anyway or form a ‘bad mother’ as some might suggest in certain situations. Being a new mother means that she is learning from baby as baby is learning from mother. The first baby is always a learning path. The second child is always easier as senses are not alerted and so sensitive as the mind already has it’s alarm bells ready and knows already when to ring and when to not. A new mom needs all the strength, patience, support, smiles, hugs and laughs she can get as she is going through one of the most challenging times of her life. Through pregnancy the body starts to change and the nesting begins within the last months of pregnancy. Once the baby is born, the mother naturally goes through a protective and bonding stage with the baby and becomes sensitive to anyone touching or holding the baby. For new fathers out there, please be patient and know this: This is a natural stage the mother has to go through and will pass within time. Just let her know you are there for the both of them when they are ready for you. And they will be.